Pakistani model and actress, Rubya Chaudhry recently opened about a harsh reality of the Asian societies where a girl’s life is always on radar. Firstly, her marriage is a cause of concern for all and sundry and then the success of the said marriage is a topic of discussion. The situation becomes more tiresome for women who have to go through broken marriages because the society won’t let them breathe.
Addressing the issue, Rubya took to Instagram and wrote a long post about the stigmatization of divorce that she has experienced first hand.
“I always knew people can be crass and ill-mannered, but there isn’t anything like experiencing it first hand. I don’t even so much as humour these types usually, but in some situations one just HAS to put their foot down,” she wrote.
Rubya, who is extremely private about her personal life, got married in 2016 to musician Meekal Hasan. She wrote about her marriage and divorce in the post:
“I got married a few years ago, and then got divorced super quickly after. And that’s that really. Never really put my private life up for people to speculate about in the first place, but I don’t blame them for being curious about such matters. Well now you know,” she added.
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“I’d also like to add that divorce doesn’t always mean sadness and death and hayay hayay yeh kya hogya! Hayayyy bachi ki zindagi tabaaah ho gai! [Oh God what has happened! The girl’s life has been ruined]. It could also mean bachi ki zindagi tabaah honay say BACH gayee. It also means a second chance at love, at life, at all the wonderfully amazing chapters that may have never actualized had you chosen the dead end as your destiny. Choose to thrive. Choose divorce if it ain’t your scene and stop worrying about all the ill-mannered and crass people around,” she explained.
Rubya not only talked about her divorce in the post but also explained how women are forced to live in an unhappy marriage because divorce is labeled as graceful. She encouraged girls to decide for themselves.
“And I didn’t have to share this. But this is not just about me, it’s about the hundreds of thousands of women who are made to feel like they should be ashamed if their marriages didn’t work out, who are told time and again by their own husbands and in-laws that there’s something wrong with them, that they need to change themselves to fit into some mould of the perfect wife (whatever that is), who’re gaslighted continuously and stripped off their vibrant personalities. Basically what I’m saying is… Alhamdulillah,” she wrote.
The model ended her post on a beautiful note with Kishor Kumar’s evergreen song:
Kuch toh log kahain gay,
Logon ka kaam hai kehna,
Chhoro baykaar ki baaton main,
Kaheen beet na jayay raina
*Cover Image: Hassan Malik Mahmood
